The Sydney Morning Herald
by Catharine Lumby
September 5, 1989
BABIES are the last people you’d expect to spark off a love triangle. Sweet, unblemished and innocent, they don’t exactly look like romantic interlopers. Nonetheless, the birth of an infant may be the beginning of a sexual rift between its parents.On a physical level, Tupling says that men may find it difficult to adjust to their partner’s new role. "This is a culture where breasts are for men, not babies," she said. "If their partner doesn’t want to be physical any more, they can also feel left out and jealous."Women, on the other hand, Tupling says, may feel "touched out" – tired of continual physical contact with their children, they may long to have some space to themselves.
Baby Harry Greenwood entered Katrina Greenwood and Hugo Weaving’s lives eight months ago. For the first three months, Katrina says, sex was the last thing on her mind.
"I felt like my body had changed and I didn’t feel sexy any more," she said. "You put on weight during pregnancy and when you’re breastfeeding, you don’t want your breasts touched. They seem to have a different function."Exhaustion, she says, is also a contributing factor. "The little time I had to myself, I felt like being alone or maybe just talking to Hugo."But their relationship, she says, is stronger for Harry’s arrival. "Sex is less important for the moment. But because we’re honest and talk things out, I think we’ve found a new depth."
Hugo agrees. "I’m certainly looking forward to things being back to normal, but our relationship is definitely stronger for Harry."